Practicing power “with” children vs. power “over” children can be more of a shift in thinking for adults than actually giving up punishment. We often think it is more about what we do “to” children to make them change their ways (the power over thing again)! To recap Steps 1…
The most effective way to influence behaviour is through encouragement. To clarify, however, encouragement is not about being permissive or letting children “get away” with things. Sometimes encouragement has to come in the form of being firm with children. Children need structure and they need limits. Without them, they…
Creating a Positive Time Out area doesn’t have to be complicated. Before it is needed and when everyone feels calm, explain to your child that we all have times when we lose control of our behaviour, feel upset, or find ourselves in a bad mood. This does not mean that…
“Where did we get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, we have to make them feel worse?” Dr. Jane Nelsen How would you respond if your boss or a colleague reprimanded you by saying, “Go to your room and think about what you just did!”? Most…