Did you know that how you say something to a child to a large extent determines their response. In Module Two of my Discipline with Influence Online Parent Program I outline some key facts about brain develop and function that parents need to be aware of when it comes to discipline and interacting with their […]
We’ve always heard that how we say something is more important than what we say. Now we know why. It’s because of mirror neurons. Mirror neurons allow us to tune in to the movements and feelings of others and are often referred to as “monkey see, monkey do” neurons. They read someone else’s intention as
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Getting Kids to Listen Can be as Simple as Asking a Question! My last post was with regards to the need to develop children’s inner locus of control and the fact that children who develop a strong inner locus of control are also more successful academically and in other areas of life. One of the
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Are you trying to control children with punishment? If you read my last post, you’ll have read about how trying to control kid’s behaviour through punishment is an illusion. But if we give up punishment what do we do? If you’re experiencing challenging behaviour from the children in your life, encouragement is the most effective
Understand that you may need to teach your child many things over and over before he/she is developmentally ready to understand. Be patient. Minimize your words and maximize your actions. Don’t take your child’s behaviour personally and think your child is mad at you or bad or defiant. Remain the adult in the situation and
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Children under the age of three do not understand “no” in the way many parents think they do. And, a full understanding of “no” doesn’t occur magically when the child turns three. It is a developmental process. “No” is an abstract concept that is in direct opposition to the developmental need of young children to
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“My child refuses to cooperate.” “He/she is so strong willed and disobedient”. These are common concerns expressed by parents. Unfortunately, many parents escalate the problem because they feel they have to “win”. All too often, parents allow themselves to get drawn into power struggles and the more they try to force their will, the more the
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With the start of the new school year, comes the classic “morning rush”. How does everybody get out the door on time in the morning without leaving a wake of mess and emotional stress? Routine charts are one of the most effective parenting tools when it comes to any sort of daily routine. If you’re familiar
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Parents often raise concerns about bedtime routines. You know the drill – one more drink, one more story, one more trip to the bathroom and the list goes on. There isn’t a child anywhere who doesn’t try to extend bedtime at least once in a while. But more serious bedtime problems may be a result
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Ruth Buffam
Certified Positive Discipline Educator & Trainer
Positive Discipline Solutions Canada