We’ve always heard that how we say something is more important than what we say. Now we know why. It’s because of mirror neurons. Mirror neurons allow us to tune in to the movements and feelings of others and are often referred to as “monkey see, monkey do” neurons. They read someone else’s intention as […]
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Getting Kids to Listen Can be as Simple as Asking a Question! My last post was with regards to the need to develop children’s inner locus of control and the fact that children who develop a strong inner locus of control are also more successful academically and in other areas of life. One of the
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Between the ages of 1 and 3, children start their journey towards independence and personal power. This is a normal and healthy stage in their development. While children require a great deal of guidance, it’s important to respect and support this increasing need for independence and personal power. When children are supported in these areas
After a long absence, I look forward to get back to blogging and helping adults create environments where kids “thrive, learn and cooperate”! “Where did we get the crazy idea that in order for kids to do better we have to first make them feel worse?” This is one of my favourite quotes of Jane
I often run into parents who feel that there is a stigma attached to attending a parent workshop. The thought is that you only attend a parenting class if your kids are out of control or if you are an incompetent parent. This is puzzling in light of the fact that parenting is the most
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Understand that you may need to teach your child many things over and over before he/she is developmentally ready to understand. Be patient. Minimize your words and maximize your actions. Don’t take your child’s behaviour personally and think your child is mad at you or bad or defiant. Remain the adult in the situation and
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Children under the age of three do not understand “no” in the way many parents think they do. And, a full understanding of “no” doesn’t occur magically when the child turns three. It is a developmental process. “No” is an abstract concept that is in direct opposition to the developmental need of young children to
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“My child refuses to cooperate.” “He/she is so strong willed and disobedient”. These are common concerns expressed by parents. Unfortunately, many parents escalate the problem because they feel they have to “win”. All too often, parents allow themselves to get drawn into power struggles and the more they try to force their will, the more the
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With the start of the new school year, comes the classic “morning rush”. How does everybody get out the door on time in the morning without leaving a wake of mess and emotional stress? Routine charts are one of the most effective parenting tools when it comes to any sort of daily routine. If you’re familiar
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Parents often raise concerns about bedtime routines. You know the drill – one more drink, one more story, one more trip to the bathroom and the list goes on. There isn’t a child anywhere who doesn’t try to extend bedtime at least once in a while. But more serious bedtime problems may be a result
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Ruth Buffam
Certified Positive Discipline Educator & Trainer
Positive Discipline Solutions Canada