Creating a Positive Time Out with your Child

Creating a Positive Time Out area doesn’t have to be complicated.  Before it is needed and when everyone feels calm, explain to your child that we all have times when we lose control of our behaviour, feel upset, or find ourselves in a bad mood.  This does not mean that…

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Why Positive Time Out for Kids?

“Where did we get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, we have to make them feel worse?”   Dr. Jane Nelsen How would you respond if your boss or a colleague reprimanded you by saying, “Go to your room and think about what you just did!”?  Most…

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Dealing with Defiant Children

“My child refuses to cooperate.” “He/she is so strong willed and disobedient”. These are common concerns expressed by parents.   Unfortunately, many parents escalate the problem because they feel they have to “win”.   All too often, parents  allow themselves to get drawn into power struggles and the more they try to force…

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Back to School with Routine Charts

With the start of the new school year, comes the classic “morning rush”.  How does everybody get out the door on time in the morning without leaving a wake of mess and emotional stress?   Routine charts are one of the most effective parenting tools when it comes to any sort of…

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I Love You and the Answer is “No”

Rudolf Dreikurs taught the importance of being both kind and firm in our relations with children. Kindness is important in order to show respect for the child. Firmness is important in order to show respect for ourselves and for the needs of the situation. Authoritarian methods usually lack kindness. Permissive…

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Dealing with Bedtime Hassles

Parents often raise concerns about bedtime routines. You know the drill – one more drink, one more story, one more trip to the bathroom and the list goes on.  There isn’t a child anywhere who doesn’t try to extend bedtime at least once in a while. But more serious bedtime…

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Parents: Let Kids Help

 It is tempting for busy parents to do all the household chores themselves, thinking it is quicker, easier and that at least the task will get done “properly”.   But when parents take this attitude, they deprive their kids of opportunities to learn cooperation, responsibility and other important life skills such keeping…

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Fostering Healthy Self Esteem in Children

Self-esteem – the collection of pictures children carry around of who they are and how they fit in—is formed early in life.  Even though children make these decisions internally, parents have a tremendous influence on the unconscious decisions children form.  The way parents communicate both with words and actions, help…

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